Social media is NOT reality
I often get frustrated when I am travelling on public transport and I hear younger people discussing the latest celeb fad diet or the lavish lifestyle someone in the public eye is seemingly living.
I grew up when social media apps were becoming the big thing within younger people and I can’t imagine what the pressures are like almost a decade on from when I first started utilising it. Having to post the next best thing and always be upbeat and positive as this is all we are intaking from those we follow and look up to online.
No wonder there are links between the impact of social media and mental health.
It’s scary to think what we are taking in from who we’re following and how warped our perception of reality and everyday life is becoming. I know from experience that I would think I would be happier after getting the latest in thing from the celeb advertising it because she/he was smiling in the photograph, so it clearly was making them happy.
I often felt inadequate with the circumstances and the environment I was born into, even though I couldn’t help it. I would end up deleting pictures that did not get enough likes due to being embarrassed and feeling ugly, whilst I sat and compared myself to someone with over a thousand of these likes.
I’d constantly sit and say ‘I wish I could be them, I wish I had their body or belongings’ thinking it would lead to the be all and end all of happiness, when in reality it wouldn’t.
It has taken a few years and a lot of down days to realising that I am enough, that the life certain people are selling online is not real, that I should not compare myself to them as, day in day out their life online won’t be what it is like in real life. They are not above me or anyone else they are the same, I am already enough and do not need the latest gadget to be like them.
Here’s my top 3 tips for those on social media
- Take everything with a pinch of salt – the pictures you see online are probably not reality and have taken a mini photoshoot to get ‘the perfect shot’. Do not feel belittled and unworthy – most of the photos and content will be edited.
- Do not buy into the adds online –they are being paid to say good things about the product, you most likely do not need it and you’ll most likely never use the product once you have got it anyway, you’re just putting money into those with large followings pockets.
- Unfollow those who make you feel bad about yourself – I wish I had done this sooner, I felt so free when I unfollowed those who pressurised me into thinking I wasn’t good enough, it isn’t their fault it’s my own perception of self-worth but not having images and content on my feed that made me feel bad has really helped with my thoughts
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