About Real Stories
When you’re struggling with your feelings it can sometimes seem like you’re the only one who feels the way you do. But you’re not alone. Lots of other people deal with similar problems all the time – you just might not know it.
Real Stories are created by MindMate, to share stories from young people in Leeds who have had problems with their mental health. We’ll be adding more stories over the next few months so please check back again soon.
For more information about the issues raised, look out for the pop-ups throughout the films or see our ‘Common issues’ section on the MindMate website.
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What is anxiety?
Everyone feels anxious from time to time. Sometimes you might feel fearful or nervous about certain situations, or worried about things that might happen. You may be worried about taking an exam, having to speak in public, problems at home or even going on a date. All kinds of things, big and small, can make people feel anxious – it’s important to remember that we’re all different.
If you’re feeling anxious too often or for too long and it’s starting to affect how you feel, it’s a good idea to talk to someone you can trust. There are also places you can go to for help.
Things you might find useful…
What is panic? Is it the same as anxiety?
Panic is like you’ve taken all of the feelings that make up anxiety, but turned them up to 10. They have lots of the same feelings in common, but while anxiety can be mild, medium or severe, panic almost always involves very severe (and horrible) feelings. Some people find that if the panic gets out of control, they might have a panic attack.
When a panic attack happens, it can be scary and horrible. It might feel like:
– Your heart is thudding or skipping a beat
– Your head is pounding
– You’re dizzy, wobbly or might faint
– Changes in breathing – like you can’t breathe enough or catch your breath
– You need to escape or stop what you’re doing
– You’re hot and sweaty, or cold and even shivery.
Coping with exams
Exam season can be tough. Even the calmest people can feel the pressure, whether that’s from themselves, their family or their school, and it could be easy for things to feel like they’re too much. Knowing how to prepare and how to keep your cool are really important. But it’s also crucial to know how to spot when the pressure is getting out of hand and to find out what to do about it.
Anxiety and worry can be triggered by all sorts of different things, big and small. Some people might find exam season overwhelming, while others may worry about meeting new people, you might even find the news upsetting, or perhaps just change in general. We’re all different and react to situations in different ways.
Recognising the things that bring about those feelings of panic can help you cope and deal with any negative feelings in the right way, before they take over.
Taking control of anxiety
When it comes to reducing feelings of anxiety, there’s loads of different coping mechanisms out there. It’s all about finding the one that works best for you.
Some people, like Olivia, find that mindfulness helps to clear their head and reduces the feeling of panic inside. Where others swear by exercise and long walks. There’s plenty of different things you can do to help.
Here’s some things to try…
Finding help in Leeds
Talking about how you feel can be hard. It’s not always easy to know what to say first or how to describe how you feel, but it can be a big help to share your feelings with someone who cares.
Who to talk to?
Talking about how you feel can really help if you’re struggling with feelings of anxiety. But it isn’t always easy to get that conversation started, or to know what to say first or describe how you feel.
Different people can help in different ways depending on what you need, from someone to just listen, to someone who can offer you professional advice or treatment.
Things you might find useful…
A final note from Olivia
Find any way of communicating that works for you, because the sooner you address it, the faster you can get the help.Play again
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